Relationship Advice

Hi everyone! This may be a bit long. I’d rather add too much than too little, so I apologize in advance. I have a feeling people may be critical of me, which is understandable, but please try to be constructively critical. I’m just going to jump right into it!

i’m exhausted man.

I tried talking about this with my girlfriend and she kind of didn’t give me any input except “I understand why that makes you upset”

This is a bit embarrassing but I’d rather be honest and get some straightforward advice. I came across a guy on Instagram who lives in the same city as me. I don’t know him at all and his account is private. He showed up in my suggestions | clicked out of curiosity and that was it at first. But over the past few days I’ve caught myself going back to his profile, checking it repeatedly, looking at suggested accounts from his page and overthinking things based on basically no real information. Part of me keeps thinking that if I just send a follow request, I’ll either lose interest or finally “get over it,” but another part of me thinks that might just make it worse. So I guess my question is: How do you actually stop this kind of fixation on someone you don’t even know? Do I just ignore it and cut off access completely or is it better to face it and move on that way? Any blunt or honest advice is welcome.

not sure what to do about this, but I feel like it’s the only thing I can “control”, even though it is kind of petty.  

Now, realistically, we’re probably not gonna last forever. We’re 18 and 19 years old. But whenever marriage is brought up somehow, even when it’s around non-homophobic people or queer people themselves, she always says “he”, “my future husband”, “If I get married, I hope it’ll be to a man/guy who does __.”

I’m a 52-year-old father, and I’m honestly at my wit’s end here. My 22-year-old son wants to change his last name to “Carrington,” and it’s driving me absolutely crazy. You see, he was named after me, and now he wants to throw that away just because he doesn’t like our family name. He’s been talking about this since he was 15-17, but I foolishly believed it was just teenage angst that would fade away with time. But here we are, years later, and he’s still hell-bent on becoming a “Carrington.” Why?

When I was 17 (NB) I dated “Emma” (15F). We broke up when she was 16 and I had just turned 18. She said she wasn’t a good girlfriend, but I think differently. I think I was a bad partner.

So, me, (22F), my fiancée Aiko (monogamous but supports me, 23F) and my boyfriend Will (23NB but he/they pronouns) are all in an open relationship. Will is also dating this guy Dave (26M) for 2 months, while we have been dating for like 4 months. We are seeing how it goes, but I have one problem.

So, for a while, I (22F) only devoted (romantically) time and attention to Aiko (23F), my fiancée, as I have been dating her since I was 18 and I was monogamous for so long as I hadn’t met the right one. When I came to the USA and started to live with my parents near my friend Beth, I met this guy she knew since high school, Will, and we really clicked.

So I (22F) am dating Aiko. I have been for about 4 years. We are also engaged and have been for about 10 months. When I moved near my online friend Beth to the USA, I met her friend since high school Will. We really got along and now we’re dating, have been for 3 months, almost 4.

32F him 41 M Let me preface this in saying I didnt think I would have done this but I had to much to drink and guess gave my number out no memory at all. I am unfortunately like a very social person. He saw it was texted Hey at 6 something he saw my phone at 11, I never replied honestly didnt know the text was there.

I’ve been dating this amazing women for a few months then recently got into a relationship a few weeks ago, but she’s more sensitive than I am. I’m more laid back and don’t let things bother me and love dark offensive humor for shock value…she’s the opposite doesn’t like certain things said and say gets offended if I jokingly flip off (which I do to people I’m close to as a sogn of ironic love) for example. However our core beliefs like politics, religion, and personalities align for most part.

It’s been going on for a couple years and she fits really well in our relationship but last weekend she confessed to us that she slept with Steve Harwell at a carnival in 2021 and my wife and I can’t get past it.

I am feeling insecure and scared right now. My husband of ten years and I have been separated for about a year. Things are up and down but we’ve been seeing a therapist. He has a history of aggressive driving. Today, he was driving fast, then passed a slower car in a no passing zone going 30 MPH over the speed limit. It scared me. When I said something, his initial response was “either I passed them or I was going to be angry behind them the entire time”, then later that he should have warned me first. No apology.

I love my partner more than anything else in this world. We generally have a great relationship but, I’ve been working 60+ hour weeks for a few months and it has started taking a toll on our relationship. I’m on the “high functioning” end of the autism spectrum and I’m also ADHD, so my work schedule has been particularly exhausting with my limited social/executive function batteries. I’m insanely burnt out. My SO is very supportive, mostly.. He’s been taking a break from low wage jobs and working primarily at the house, and he just started a new freelance style job that amounts to a gig every few weeks for now. This arrangement has been working well for us, in terms of having things covered, but he wants to work more to bring in more income. He works hard and I see a lot of value in everything he does. No issues there. But, he doesn’t leave the house much, so he has an abundance of social energy and is significantly lacking in getting enough socializing/ connection. He talks to his mom everyday and me. We’re each other’s best friends, lovers, and support system.

I (18nb/18m) have been friends with Karl (18m/maybe 19m now) since freshman year. We had been seated together in science class on the first day and really hit it off since then. Karl also has bad social anxiety and already had when I met him, so he only really talked to and trusted me.

i wrote this in a rush…

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So basically I understand that dating a black woman is different than a white woman. She mentioned she feels comfortable when someone is open to learn and takes initiative to learn the societal and cultural things that affect her as a black woman. I don’t know what this means. And the take initiative part confuses me. And I’m not sure how to go about it I’m very open minded to learn but should I probe with questions or more so reading about it myself?

I feel like too much time will end up with us being like brothers, and too little time will end up with the relationship being forced. I get a warm feeling every time my crush(?) calls me, so I may like him, but IDK. He said sure, maybe if we get to know each other more he’d date me, and I agreed. But how long into the relationship before I consider dating him?

Towards the beginning of the school year I was a lesbian, and now I’m a guy. Anyway, when I asked her out, Jess said she’d love to get to know me first, and asked me out after a week or so of “talking”. Then, I found out she never even liked me and just didn’t wanna feel bad for saying no, then claimed she was aroace. Someone online, however, said she probably just lied to get out of the relationship because she also never flirted with me but said she would kiss and sleep with boys. She then said she was straight and started dating a guy about a week later.